it's long, i know, but worth the read i think....who am i, what do
i want? those are pretty deep questions for a saturday morning and
i'm not sure i have the answers. even if i think i know the
answers, one thing i'm sure of, who i am and what i want is never
set in stone. those answers continue to evolve; which i'm sure is a
good thing. having said that...i know for sure that i'm a gay white
male living in sf for the past 26 years and self-employed in a
profession that i really enjoy. being creative and getting paid for
it is pretty cool. i like where i live and usually love the people
that surround me, sometimes not, you know we all have our moods. i
also know that i'd like to meet a decent, honest, caring and
passionate guy that i can count on to ride with me through this
crazy world. generally speaking though, you'll probably find me to
be a very easy going, fun guy with a lot of interests, very honest,
a lot of passion and a really good heart and soul. i'm a pretty
playful guy, i like men who can be boyish in that way, knowing when
to be serious and when to let loose and have fun being a kid. i
tend to be attracted to guys who are more on the active side in and
out of the sack, guys who are comfortable hiking, biking, being in
the ocean, basically moving your body, not interested in couch
dwellers. in addition, emotionally available guys are where it's at
for me. if you can communicate with me, that's a big plus, we're
half way there. i'm not into drama, save it for the stage. like
everyone, i have my faults and i'll be the first to admit
it...perfection is completely overrated. i'm authentic and real and
understanding, but i do have a very low tolerance for people who
aren't. physically, emotionally and spiritually, i take care of
myself and invest time and energy into those parts of myself and
i'm drawn to people who do the same. i like to be active, but not
scheduled out, i need my down time. i enjoy being outdoors and
being social but also like to hang out alone at home or just take a
walk on the beach by myself to recharge. i get a lot of comfort and
pleasure from the ocean. when i surf, i find it so amazing to be in
the water, surrounded by sea life and viewing the coast from out
there. riding a wave is an incredible feeling, being powered by
nature and feeling so in sync with life, so much a part of nature.
that's my deeper side talking.<br />
most of my friends have been with me for years, some as long as
grade school. i'm really loyal that way. it's very comforting to
have a long history with people, helps to ground me.<br />
my family is really cool and wants to see me with a nice guy that
they can embarrass me in front of. isn't that what families are
for, to remind us of where we came from and how far we've
evolved...hopefully. my mom is really great, she's 83 and is so
active, doing yoga and aerobics, taking trips, drinking boxed wine
with friends, volunteering, keeping the family together and
drinking more boxed wine with friends. we're big fans of each
other. i have a large extended family, aunts, uncles, cousins and
we get together usually once a year at thanksgiving. they always
get excited when i bring a new guy around. you know the gay
relative with a new boyfriend is a novelty in most families. i
think it makes them feel hip and cool and that works for me.<br />
on the serious side, i'm hiv- if that matters to you one way or the
other.<br />
well enough about me. i hope i've given you some insight into who i
am and the type of man i'm looking to meet; besides, i'm tired of
writing about myself. so if you're interested let me know, give me
a wink or whatever the hell it is they do on this site to
communicate an interest.<br />
hope you find what you're looking for. we all deserve that don't
we?