i'm exuberant, still, ridiculous, serious, always curious,
sometimes critical, a lot caring and a bit eccentric. the things i
don't know surprise people as much as the things i know.<br />
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i'm originally from new jersey and i cut my teeth on the streets of
nyc. growing up people used to ask me if i was from california. now
i am.<br />
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i've had an okc profile since 2007, but didn't start using it until
october 2011.<br />
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life is about two things: learning and joy. in each there is
inherent wonder, without which i could not survive.<br />
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a real life friend of mine wrote this testimonial on some other
networking site (tribe.net). it's apt and i like it:<br />
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"how do i begin? she is quintessentially real. reality oozes from
her pores. she is so real that she doesn't need to be honest, like
honesty doesn't exist because there is no other option. like asking
a fish what it lives in.<br />
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she is forward and confrontive. <a class="ilink" href=
"/interests?i=bullshit+free+zone">bullshit free zone</a> extends
about 4 feet radius from her.<br />
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she cares. she cares so much that she has to protect herself from
caring. her vulnerability there makes me pissed about the world and
motivates me to do something so that she can be free to care as
much as is good for her.<br />
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she is funny. doesn't catch all my humor, or any "all" about me,
but she doesn't care. she treats me the way she thinks i deserve,
and she plays, and likes funny. and she plays and likes serious,
and she plays and just lets herself play<br />
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she has a great ass. she knows it and does not abuse her advantage.
she radiates sensuality, including the sex part, but she is just
she, not someone trying to be sexy or sensual.<br />
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she needs a lot of love. not any more than the vast majority of
people in the world, but somewhere deep she has not accepted what
most people accept - that you can live with a lot less love if you
give up most of your humanity. i love that about her, because that
means she is an ally that can be counted on.<br />
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i will arbitrarily stop here."<br />
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that about sums it up. the "forward and confrontive" part is
something to take particular note of- i ask a lot of questions and
often my motivation is mistaken. believe in yourself and we're ok.